Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Welcome Life in the Big Green House!!!!

Life is funny. It suprises you when you least expect it.....sometimes good, sometimes bad. Luckily, this time good. It all started at the Indigo Girls concert. We were tired after just coming home from vacation. But my good friend had bought the tickets and asked us to go a LONG time before our vacation. So, we went...knowing we would have a great time despite being super tired.

We got there and had a blast. The concert was great and we had a blast with Brooke. The other thing we noticed? There are a lot of lesbians in Little Rock and we know A LOT of them. The only problem? Most of them are single, without kids, and into a much different "scene" than us. Let's face it when you are the only one with kids in a group of people....it is difficult. Fast foward to intermission when we were standing in line waiting for a drink. We were talking about how "out of the community" we felt since having kids. Most of our friends are heterosexual couples with kids. We don't have ANY problem with this and didn't even really think about it until Syd recently started asking about other 2 mom families. Uhmm....we are bad lesbian moms!!! Anyway, we weren't drunk, we weren't going out after the concert, and we were checking our cell phones to make sure our babysitter had not called. We were feeling like we didn't belong in a community that we used to be super involved in/with.

That is when I overhead a conversation behind me. 2 moms talking about their kids. At least I was pretty sure that was what I heard. So I turned around and said, "do you guys have kids?" Their answer, "yes!!!" What happened next? We all started talking about our kids. Similar ages? Check! Living in LR? Check! This was looking good. One of the women, Holcomb, kept saying that she was sure she knew Mere from somewhere. Turns out they had been at a B-day party for a boy in Syd's class (whose mom I work with) and used to live next door to Bridget and Holcomb. Small world!

So, Bridget told me her full name and where she worked (UAMS...same place as me) and I told her I would email her. What do I do next? Email her the next day...can you say stalker? Luckily, she didn't think I was a stalker and got back to me pretty quickly. A few weeks later, a few dinners and phone calls and we are fast friends. The best part? Our kids really get along. Ok, so Layne and Meric (their youngest) are both pretty strong willed but they will be friends, damnit!!!!! Syd and Breck (their oldest) are definately on the same page....she finally has someone to share her love of dinos and dragons with.

It is really great to meet new friends and have everything fall into place. The real point of this post? To welcome Bridget and Holcomb to blogland. When you get a chance, go to their new blog at Life in the Big Green House and welcome them to the family!!!!!

8 comments:

Holcomb.pittman said...

Awww!!! That's so cool! We have had the EXACT same conversations...not having friends who have kids who can jive with our kids. It is a small world, but I believe everything happens for a reason. I'm sure Mere told you that after holding Layne the other night she's talking about #3! Score! I'm really excited even though this is a bit down the road...we won't start trying until Sept. 2009. Overplanners? Oh yeah! :)

robyn.green said...

that is awesome. we are in exactly the same boat as you. we did start out with that bratpack group...6 boys born to 2mom families from July - October 2002. but honestly, we didn't really have that much in common with them. so...now...most of the families we hang out with are straight. and that works for us. but you are right...it would surely be cool if we did have friends that were queer who had kids. cuz we really don't feel involved at all in anything remotely queer.

Sonya said...

How very cool!!!

ECand3 said...

VERY COOL! I know exactly howyu feel. Cin and I met all of our 2-moms-with-kids friends in...church, of all places. It's a VERY open church. We now have 3 sets of friends whom we love and see often. God did have a plan.

K J and the kids said...

You so need families under the same circumstances as yourself. The support is fantastic.
I'm glad that you met !

tallgirl said...

Oh WOW. I thought you guys were long friends. I am glad you met them too because I like them.

Even if they don't have a minivan.

Jen said...

Yea for you guys. It's always nice to have friends who have so much in common. And I talked to them at the party and thought they seemed really nice!

Dee said...

Welcome to the new fam!

Glad you found some local families. I agree that's it's so important to have relationships with other fams so that the kids have other kids they can relate to.